What is this "fucking LOVE"

I wonder, really, what is love?

When we look at the definition:

The definition of true love varies according to many people, but the main characteristics are the same everywhere and for every person. In true love, there is no room for third parties. In one's mind, in one's heart and in one's life, there is only the person one is in love with. 

Loyalty and trust are the fruits of true love. In addition, "passion" and "compassion" are among the emotions felt with true love.

How do we know when we are in love? 

The person in love loses their appetite and sleeps much less. They become absent-minded and have difficulty focusing on anything because they only think about the person they are in love with. He/she even finds it difficult to do routine tasks during the day. 

When a person sees the person they are in love with, their heart starts beating faster. He/she gets excited when talking to him/her. If the person is experiencing unrequited or platonic love, they may show signs of depression. They become completely withdrawn and isolate themselves from society. Those whose love is reciprocated experience sudden bursts of emotion and a euphoric mood.

Famous literary figures have said:

"Love has nothing to do with your expectations; love is only about what you are willing to give, and that means everything"

-Maria Popova

Love looks with the mind, not with the eyes

-Shakespeare

What is hell? I suppose it is the agony of being incapable of loving.

-Fyodor Dostoyevsky

 Love is realizing that you still love people when they make fools of themselves, no matter how strange it is.

-Agatha Christie

It doesn't make sense to me, maybe because I've never been in love before.

Do people really fall in love or do they just think they are in love? I mean how can you see someone all the time, know everything about them and still love them?

How is the person you're in love with different from the others?
His body? His personality? His heart? What else is left?

"We all choose our death partners."

Maybe they won't even be with us when we die. Nevertheless, the feelings we think of as love can of course give us life energy. Maybe they will be a hope that makes us live more exciting. Maybe we will have hopes that we will find true love.

Were all those songs about love written when people were really in love?
I don't think so. 

To look at it from a different perspective, there are so many impressive writings, poems and songs...one can really go through life hoping that one day one will fall in love. I personally believe in love, maybe a little bit in love

but to find love...

Is it our overestimation of love that makes it so unattainable?
Or is it really unattainable?

I wondered what people thought if they had any hope of finding love. And last day I asked people what they understood love to be and I wanted to write my favorite 5 answers here

(I preferred to express people's opinions anonymously)

Person 1 said:

"I learned that there are times when you can't decide whether you are in love or not. It's something that everyone feels differently and expresses differently. Platonic love is just as important as romantic love. Personally, I know I love someone by always thinking about them, craving their attention and blushing when they are near me. It's a happy feeling, a good kind of tension. But I feel platonic love by being happy when my friends talk to me or when I see them. It's an experience and a feeling that you can't describe, but everyone understands what you mean."

Person 2 said:

"Love is a meeting of souls, not of persons. You don't need a person who makes you feel that you are less valuable than him or that he is superior to you. You need someone who sees you as his whole life, who sees you as his greatest asset. You deserve a person who values you. I need that one person. Who sees me as a complete treasure. That I value as a human being and that person will value me. And it's foolish to waste time and emotion with someone else because you're going to give love to someone, even if they don't deserve that love."

Person 3 said:

"Simply a wonderful feeling, I would say you feel alive. Both: you're annoyed that it didn't work out, but you still want the person to be well. i thought about her without wanting to think about her. i don't believe that there is a right or wrong relationship when you really love each other. i rather believe that the one who doesn't love leaves."

Person 4 said:

"The is a fine line between live and attachment, you may think that you're in love with somebody however it can be, that you are just attached to the feeling that they give you because when you were younger you riding receive certain kind of affection through family and friends, therefore you try to look for them in lovers."

Person 5 said:

"When you are in love with someone, you miss every second that passes when you are not with your loved one.Your life then has not just one axis of rotation, but two. The other person takes every action you take as a factor. You realize you love someone especially when your loved one is missing. But when you're with them, life just goes by without a hitch. Or rather carefree. You get problems, but you don't care. You have what's most important to you inside."

Love is for me:
For me, love is not being able to breathe without him. Not feeling at peace. Thinking about him every moment. Wanting to spend every moment together. Even if you don't like getting wet in the rain, you want to get soaked so you can spend more time with him. So basically trust, sacrifice, compassion, passion, goodwill, pure heart, generosity and maybe heroism. Loving him more or less. Falling in love a little more in every moment. To be able to give everything, to love with everything, even if you are different not only physically but also spiritually. I think love is being a puppet. It means you can't do anything, you are defenseless. Love is being able to take the whole world against you for his sake. To love everything that comes from him. To listen to his every word like a lullaby. I think love means being blind. It means being deaf. It means isolation. Love means going to another dimension. Of course, that's only if you can find her/him :).

Thank you for reading this far. If you have anything to add, you can write to me anonymously via the contact form on my website.
stay with love<3